Break the patterns that keep you stuck.
Trauma-informed, Action-oriented, Guidance, and Support in Kona and online for people ready to find the root cause, choose differently, and take new action.
Gary Jaster, M.Ed. | Empowering The Self
Trauma-Informed Transformational Practitioner, Kailua-Kona, Hawaiʻi
You are not broken.
The pattern is the problem.
The same negative thoughts and beliefs. The same anxiety in your body. The same relationship dynamic. The same fear of disappointing someone, being alone, shutting down, or reacting. I help you get to the root of what keeps repeating, then choose from a different way forward.
DISCOVER THE ROOT OF YOUR STRUGGLE
REPLACE INHERITED FALSE BELIEFS
PRACTICE NEW CHOICES
CREATE LASTING CHANGE
This work is for you if…
You repeat relationship patterns
You chase, shut down, people-please, overgive, or feel alone even when you are with someone.
You feel stuck in old reactions
You understand the issue logically, but your body and emotions still react before you can choose.
You look fine on the outside
But underneath, you feel tense, worn out, stuck, sad, or quietly overwhelmed.
You overthink everything
You replay conversations, scan for problems, then second-guess what you decide.
Talking has not changed it
You have tried therapy or self-help, but the same pattern still comes back.
Not passive talk therapy. Pattern work that leads to action.
This is not clinical mental health treatment, and I am not a licensed therapist or counselor.
My work is different on purpose.
It is active, direct, and focused on the patterns underneath the problem.
Together, we look at what is driving the reaction, where it came from, and what needs to be practiced differently in real life.
The goal is not just to understand yourself better.
The goal is to take new action from a more conscious place.
Awareness is only the beginning.
See the pattern.
Name what keeps happening, where it shows up, and how it has been running your choices.
Uncover the root.
Identify the beliefs, wounds, conditioning, and protective strategies underneath the reaction.
Take new action.
Learn how to access different responses in the moments where the old pattern usually takes over.
Why this works when other approaches haven’t
Trauma-informed methods
EMDR-informed processing, parts work, and somatic awareness help reach the root so lasting change becomes possible.
He has done the work himself
I'm not pointing you down a road that I haven't walked. My work is grounded in lived experience, not theory.
Challenge and nurture.
I meet you where you are and move you when you're ready. As a former client once shared, "He knows when to push and when to nurture."
Two ways to begin
One-on-One Sessions
Private sessions tailored to your patterns, your pace, and the places where you're ready to create lasting change.
Small Group Programs
A powerful and cost-effective opportunity for real change; exploring emotional healing, relationship patterns, codependency, self-awareness, and choosing differently with support.
Still not sure?
A free consultation helps determine which approach fits where you are today.
Gary Jaster, M.Ed.
A steady guide for direct, honest work.
I am a teacher, guide, and pattern-change practitioner based in Kailua-Kona, Hawaiʻi.
My work is grounded in more than 15 years of experience, including addiction and codependency recovery support, group facilitation, men's work, trauma-informed methods, and my own long-term healing journey through a system of thought and action rooted in a lineage of teachers, including my mentor, David Michael.
My style is supportive, and yet not passive. I meet you where you are, help you see what is actually happening, and provide you with both challenge and support for taking action instead of feeding the patterns keeping you stuck.
"Gary is top of the line. You can do no better. He has my heartfelt endorsement."
- David Michael
Teachings Through David Michael
From people who have done the work
Gary has truly mastered his craft, and is someone who's done the work himself. If you want to go deep and heal from your past and grow into your full current and future potential, then I highly recommend this man.
Shawn T.
Working with Gary opened up the ability to see my subconscious saboteur and not make it the enemy, but to notice the choice points about which wolf to feed, so I could choose a more serving perspective.
J.Y.
If you're ready for real lasting change and you're willing to do the work it takes, Gary is the perfect guide to help you walk yourself home to the true, empowered, and sovereign you.
Marion N.
See how I can help you.
FREE CONSULTATION
Send a brief message and I will get back to you. The first step is a free 15-minute consultation to see what is going on, whether the work is a fit, and where you might begin.
