There Is Nothing Wrong With You
Healing is not about fixing what is broken. It is about understanding what has been running your life, taking new action, and choosing differently.
I have walked this road myself.
I am Gary Jaster. I am a teacher, a guide, and a pattern change practitioner based in Kailua Kona.
What I teach is not something I read in a book. It is a system of thought and action that was handed down to me by my own teacher and mentor, David Michael, and I used it on my own life before I ever used it with anyone else.
That matters, because I am not going to point you down a road I have not walked.
Awareness creates freedom.
Freedom creates choice.
Choice creates transformation.
You are not held back by a lack of intelligence or motivation. You are not lazy and you are not weak.
What holds you back are unconscious beliefs, old wounds, and protective patterns that quietly shape your thoughts, your relationships, and your decisions.
You cannot change what stays unconscious. When a pattern becomes conscious, a new choice becomes possible. Practice that choice, and change stops being something you are trying to do. It becomes something you are living.
The Empowering The Self Pathway
This is the process behind the work I do in one on one sessions and groups.
Awareness
Seeing the pattern clearly, without judgment. Naming what keeps happening and where it shows up.
Acceptance
Meeting what you find without shame. The pattern is not your enemy. It once protected you.
Challenge
Questioning the belief underneath it. Asking whether the thing you learned is still true.
Action
Practicing a different response in the moment where the old one usually wins.
Accountability
Following through. Not because anyone is keeping score, but because change holds when you keep your word to yourself.
Transformation
The pattern loses its grip. You respond instead of react. You choose instead of repeat.
How I actually work
My approach is trauma informed, action oriented, and shaped by what you need.
Somatic Awareness
For what you feel before you can explain it. Your body often knows the pattern before your mind catches up.
Practical Tools
For the moment itself. Insight in a session is one thing. Having something to reach for on a Tuesday afternoon is another.
EMDR Informed Processing
For experiences that are still living in your body, where your nervous system responds as though the past is happening right now.
Parts Work
For the conflict inside you. The part that wants to change and the part that keeps you exactly where you are are both real, and neither one is the enemy.
Supportive, and not passive.
I will meet you where you are.
I will also tell you the truth.
If you are avoiding something, I will say so. If you are telling yourself a story that keeps you stuck, I will ask about it. When you are ready, I will challenge you to take action instead of feeding the pattern
If you are looking for someone to nod while you talk in circles, I am probably not the right fit. If you are tired of understanding your problems without changing them, we should talk.
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He knows when to push and when to nurture.”
A different kind of support.
What I am
I am a teacher, guide, and trauma-informed transformational practitioner. My background includes more than 15 years of work in addiction recovery support, group facilitation, men’s work, trauma-informed methods, and my own long-term healing.
What I am not
I am not a licensed therapist or counselor. I do not diagnose or provide psychotherapy or clinical mental health treatment.
If you need clinical treatment or you are in crisis, a licensed professional is the right place to start.
What I do is help you see the pattern, get to its root, and change it.
See if this feels like the right fit.
Tell me a little about what keeps repeating and what you want to change. I will answer your questions, and we can decide whether working together makes sense.
